What Life Asks of Us
This moving statement by Victor Frankl, though written about those who
survived extreme and deprivation in concentration camps, seem to be
equally relevant to those who are trying to survive great losses in
their lives and those who are attempting to deal with extreme suffering
going on around us. (I am updating the language a bit without
hopefully distorting his timeless message)
"We who lived in concentration camps can remember
the people who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away
their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they
offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a person but
one thing: the last of the human freedoms--to choose one's attitude in
any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
It did not really matter what we expected from life, but
rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the
meaning of life, and instead think of ourselves as those who were being
questioned by life daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not [only]
of talk and mediation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life
ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to
its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly set for each
individual.
When we are no longer able to change a situation-- we
are challenged to change ourselves.
A person who becomes conscious of the responsibility he
or she bears toward a human being who affectionately awaits for him or
her, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his or
her life. They know the "why" of their existence, and will be
able to bear almost any "how."
Each person is questioned by life; and they can only
answer to life by answering for their own life; to a life they can only
respond by being responsible.
Everyone has his or her own specific vocation or mission
in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands
fulfillment. Therein they cannot be replaced, nor can their life be
repeated, thus everyone's task is unique to their specific
opportunity."